I recently finished a book titled Warrior Goddess Training by HeatherAsh Amara in one of the chapters she referred to a storm that destroyed a town and the only thing left standing along the shoreline were a row of cypress trees. The reason it survived was because it was deeply rooted. When I read it I thought wow that is what I want for me and my daughter.
Yes, we are human and might lose a few branches, leaves or twigs as we go through life, but I want us to be so deeply rooted that no matter what comes our way it will not unearth us. Even though a situation before us might seem dire we know deep within that this too shall pass and when it does, we will still be standing.
Therefore, we must plant roots that nothing or no one can take away; roots that not only withstand but can navigate us through the seasons of life.
One of my roots that have served me along the way is to re-frame situations. To shift my focus to a frame of mind that will serve me.
When my daughter can’t find a toy I allow her to express her frustration. Then I remind her of the many other toys she has and that she can find something else to play with, and after a sigh or three she eventually does.
She once came to me upset because her chalk broke. I reminded her that even though it’s broken it can still colour. She can still draw with it and now she has two pieces instead of one. Her face lit up at that and she ran back to the wall and used both hands to colour.
I hope that through these small gestures I help my daughter to shift her focus to look at the situation and not only see what she lost but what she gained.
It has helped me numerous times to rather focus on the positive aspect of the situation instead of the negative. The good is always there you just have to allow yourself to see it.
The quote rings true the happiest people do not have the best of things but they make the best of things.